Thoughts of Death, A Lowdown Dirty Trick (and Why Life is Sometimes Too Good for Writing Blog Posts)

[Note #1: It’s been a long while since I’ve written. 500 people unsubscribed since I last wrote a post. But 6k people stayed. I’m glad you stayed.]

[Note #2: This is the song I was listening to while writing this post, so it’s only fitting that you listen to it while reading it.]

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

I’ll get to the main part, but first I want to say . . .

You Can’t Stop What’s Coming

I just “finished” a huge project. It’s deeply personal and important to me.

When it’s time to make noise about this you’ll probably hear about it. I’ll be marketing the shit out of it. No apologies about this now or later (I believe in this too much).

What I’ve Been Up to For the Last 4 Months

I wrote the last blog post 4 months ago, and it was a pitifully short one at that (by my standards). What happened after that is that. . .

Life Became Way too Good for Writing Blog Posts

The last post was on 10/24/09, and since then, life has been better than it’s been before. And up until now I’ve had no interest, whatsoever, in sharing it online. There was even a period when I slipped off the grid for a bit: I didn’t answer email and didn’t login to twitter. Friggin’ checked out. (Not that I really ever cared much about The Conversation™).

image

Lifestyle Design

You know that Four Hour Work Week stuff Tim Ferriss talks about? It can really happen. At least it did for me.

Speaking of which, check this out . . .

image

(That’s what we call bragging. Thanks for indulging me.)

Anyway, back to our feature presentation . . .

Strange Shit Happens When You Don’t Have a Boss

What happens is that you stop doing things you don’t want to do. And life gets really damn good.

It can also be really difficult, because ultimate flexibility denies you every excuse for not living the life of your dreams. When I’m unhappy these days, I have no one to blame by myself.

So I think I was telling you . . .

How I’ve Spent My Time Since October

I spent a lot of time exploring my corner of the upper Midwest and I managed to pack more life into the last few months than I have over the last few years.

For example I started training for a marathon (and lost all semblance of an ass . . .)

image

I spent plenty of time in dive bars playing table shuffleboard with people who’ve never heard of twitter. I went cross-country skiing on some of the best trails in the world, started playing pond hockey on city parks, passed out drinking amazing whisky more times than I’d like to admit, hung out with questionable folk singers, and met some of the best people I know.

My “mini-retirement” wasn’t spent on a foreign beach, it was spent among sacred geography in places I consider home.

And I decided to move back home. To Minneapolis.

I also . . .

Started Thinking a Lot About Death

Everything comes into perspective when you think about death. About the things that existed — and the struggles people have had before you were ever born — and the things and struggles that will exist after you’re dead.

I don’t want to go on for very long about this, but I do want to leave you with this quotation . . .

We do have a sense of what we are here for in the world. But we also know it is very difficult.
The world is motion. To enter into that motion is a ride. And it ends in *death.*
No one has succeeded in bringing into life the love they wanted to. Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, Gandhi, whoever you want to look at as a character in history who has done their best to bring love, to bring consciousness, into the world has had very limited success.
So will you.

That is, if you are looking for a result in your giving you will be disappointed.
The only result you will have in your giving is death. You will die giving.
Your choice is, do you want to die giving everything – giving your gifts – or do you want to die still holding back. Unable to give everything.
–David Deida

How I Paid for All My Down Time

Internet marketers who sell products on how to make money online are forever talking about how much they make and how they made it. I don’t have a product for sale, so I usually don’t like talking about this stuff.

But here’s a rough overview . . .

I sold stuff online. Not my stuff. Other people’s stuff. It wasn’t passive… it never is; there’s no such thing as passive . . . there’s just various degrees of not-hustling-your-ass-off (NHYAO) income (as opposed to passive income). I also did social media viral “traffic getting” for people (Fox Studios was a client, for example).

(Of course most of the stuff I tried didn’t work (the stuff that did work, however, made it all worth it). I had more than a few domains banned by Google, and more than a few CPA networks giving me bullshit fraud percentages that were wrong, and more than 200 of my 400 registered domains went unused).

I Also Hung Out With Other Sketchy Internet Marketers

image

image

Good people.

Anyway . . .

I Might Have Mentioned That Something Big Is Coming. Here’s a Small Hint . . .

“In war the victorious strategist only seeks battle after the victory has been won, whereas he who is destined to defeat first fights and afterwards looks for victory.”

-Sun Tzu

The #1 Reason Why Internet Businesses Fail

It has nothing to do with SEO, or AdWords, or copywriting, or not knowing how to use twitter properly (give me a break).

It’s doesn’t even have that much to do with marketing or enthusiasm or sticking with it. It’s much bigger and obvious than that.

The #1 reason is . . . (stay tuned until next time)

Get Free Blog Updates:   

Category: Uncategorized
You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
  • Interesting post. I have stumbled this for my friends. Hope others find it as interesting as I did.
  • Hi mate,Great post, first time I'm actually reading your blog and I really enjoy it. I've also been lifestyle designing the last couple of years, but I've been cheating a bit...I just wish I had no boss.It's nice to know there is community out there that I feel so close without knowing them.Keep up the good work, all the best
  • in the shadow of the february new moon ... the 'helen' track is qute delicious, who's the artist?


    yes, is always the option before us ... TO ENTER INTO THAT MOTION ...



    ta for now



    -- joyce
  • Erika has a damn good point wit the whole pot and kettle thing, Jonathan :-).
  • LifeBlazing
    ...said the pot to the kettle ;-)


    Hey, whaddya know... we're all black!



    Authentic. Direct. I love it, too.
  • LifeBlazing
    Yes, that *was* a low-down dirty trick... a four-month hiatus followed by an excrutiating cliff-hanger. Ouch! But the song you shared, "Helen" was so soulful, I can forgive you. Not that an utterly emancipated, wildly free being like you needs my forgiveness :-)


    And that's precisely why I'm so glad you're back.



    Now give me more. Dammit.

    Erika - http://www.joyful-work-for-sensitive-people.com/



    P.S. Yes, "sensitive people" can be snarky, too!
  • Hi Clay,


    Good on you for getting back to the roots and enjoying life for what it is worth. Like you I took a lot of downtime over the last 4 months which included a trip to Europe and a South Pacific Cruise. I didn't hang out with Internet marketers though (LOL, a little hard when you live far from all the action), but nonetheless I'm excited to hear more about your story because I absolutely LOVED TIM's book and abide by many rules within (not all).



    So rock on and let's hear it. :)
  • Clay, you have a tendency to connect with people in a way that helps them drop the bullshit and be authentic. I like that about you.


    Directness is refreshing.



    J
  • Gina
    This is part of why I drag my heels about getting started with something like a blog as the basis for my internet empire. I've done it a few times and just get incredibly bored with myself -- how can I possibly manage to keep filling it with cool content?


    My internet empire needs to not rely on my personality to sustain it. I just don't see my life being laid bare on a blog. Well, and I'm not the guru type.
  • Good to have you posting. I actually just found you a few days ago and subscribed, looks like I got that timing perfect! BTW, you're number 2 over at my data center for lifestyle design, Tim still has you beat it seems. Anyways, keep up the good work, I'm following a similar path to yours (internet marketing to finance my freedom) so I find your writing very encouraging.
  • Annie
    Hey Clay,


    Have you used/had success with things such as Clickbank (or other affiliate marketing programs)?



    Annie
  • Dany
    Thank you for this. I just came back from helping my husband tow his truck out of a snowbank. Yesterday I was out in a snowstorm helping him cut wood as we were running out and it's still cold ... and the day before that I was helping clean up the dust from putting up drywall in our new house in the middle of nowhere. In short, I was feeling sorry for myself. I moved here to be with my husband from California. I had an easy life, one full of California sunshine and friends and dinners out, but also of trying to look like the other women in California and wondering if my new outfit was on the cusp of the next big thing. I too think about death and it's OK, it DOES put things in perspective, something I've noticed even more as it seems people in New England take death really really hard. I feel like an asshole sometimes because I'm OK with it. No, my mother or father have not died, nor my brother or sister, so maybe it will be different. But one of my best friends died a few weeks ago and I'm OK with that, though I miss him like nobody's business and that part sucks.


    Anyway, to make a long story short. You deciding to live in Minneapolis, forgoing the lure of LA, NYC ... and appreciating the people you are meeting ... I adore the people here, even if they do overly freak out about death, they are real and sane and know what they like and don't like. Mostly, I can be the real me here.



    And what you said about Twitter (your friends not knowing what it is), I signed up for Facebook a few weeks ago and many people have befriended me, no one I don't want to talk to either, all good people, but something has been gnawing at me ... I hate being on Facebook. I want to just be the real me and not post a story about me, an egoic representation of me and my life. Somehow, your post made me realize that my decision is right: I need to delete myself from Facebook.



    I am a Senior Web Developer for a company in New Jersey, and I am happy to live in snowy, often very difficult, Vermont.
  • David Jacoby
    Hi Clay,


    You and I were connected via an Eben Pagan thing a while back, and I was immediately impressed with your intelligence, your ability as a writer (very near and dear to me), and your almost total lack of compunction about dropping f-bombs on your blog. What can I say, an artfully used four-letter word just warms the cockles of my soul. Or something like that.



    Anyway, your post comes at a time when I have been thinking a lot about death - or to put a finer point on it, thinking more about death than I normally do. It also comes at a time when I find myself less and less interested in that self-indulgent practice of talking about my life, my problems, etc. - online or off. There is some larger motive that I seek, that I hope will push me beyond the circumscribed little world of "self" that I've carved out for myself over the years. I realize now that my "failure to achieve my goals" is not a failure of action, but a failure of language (props to Kent Thune, whose post here helped get these wheels turning). I have not failed to achieve my goals. I have failed to probe deeply enough into myself - beyond the wants and desires that 40 years of wants and desires have inscribed upon my very eyeballs, it would seem - to find the answers to much more difficult questions like, "What do I really want to do?"



    Thanks for your thoughts, your kindness - which radiates from everything you write - and most of all, for your VIBE, which is an inspiration to me. I'll be looking forward to your next musings.



    Reading your post today and Kent's article reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from Kafka:



    "Man cannot live without a permanent trust in something indestructible in himself, though both the indestructible element and the trust may remain permanently hidden from him. One of the ways in which this hiddenness can express itself is through faith in a personal god."



    I leave it to you all to unpack the coils and mysteries of that statement. I've been musing over it for years and it still fills me with doubt, wonder and longing each time I read it.



    Peace
  • I'm glad I stuck around while you were gone Clay. Actually, I was gone too. I traveled to China, Singapore, and Korea for 4 months. It was great! Of course I could have hung out with more sketchy internet marketers, but there's still time for that. :)


    Welcome back. I'm looking forward to hear more about your fun 4 months!
  • Hi Clay,


    I wondered what happened to you.



    It would be great if you could fill us in on the stuff you are working on. Also, I think I am ready for that phone consultation we talked about many moons ago, if you are still up for it?



    I hope to hear more from you.
  • Yeah, I'm finding myself -- less and less these day -- wanting to talk about my life online. Honestly, I'd rather focus on larger issues than the happenings of my life.
  • Dude, tony, it has. Glad we're still in touch.
  • I honestly considered finishing the sentence and writing more, but (1) that post was getting way to long, and (2) it was too beautiful to be inside and it was killing me.
  • Very nice. It is good to see life is treating you right. That is so important. I always find when I have nothing to blog about, it is because I am not living life. When you are living life, you have so much more to tell but no time to tell it all. That is living life out loud.
  • Man, I almost gave up on you. Glad I didn't. I can't wait to hear more about what you've been up to. Sounds like an awesome ride!
  • CarlNelson
    Living is worth far more than keeping up with your Twitter feed.


    I look forward to the completion of that sentence, but in the meantime Sun Tzu will suffice for contemplation.
  • I look forward to reading the continuation of that sentence.


    In the meantime Sun Tzu will have to suffice for contemplation.
blog comments powered by Disqus
Affiliate Program Terms of Service Privacy Earnings Information